5 Things Every Married Man Should Do Around Single Women

A wise man once told me that when I find myself around single women, especially when I find them attractive or interesting, I should mention my wife and family early in the conversation. I have found this advice to be very useful on many occasions.

Fellow husbands, I have found the above advice and the other tips at the bottom to be essential in keeping my marriage healthy and strong. I want my marriage to be strong and healthy, and so should you! In fact, it’s one of the biggest responsibilities in your marriage. 

So let’s dig deeper into this subject. Where are some common places that you might run into this scenario? For many of you, it could easily happen at work. You could be starting a new job and find yourself around a lot of nice, new women. When this happens, you have to make the choice to embrace their attention or extinguish it in a friendly way by mentioning your beautiful wife and family.

For some of you, you have been working around the same women for some time. You might have chosen many times to engage in flirty conversation or to go out with co-workers after work. If this is you and your wife is at home waiting for you, then it’s time to step back and assess your position as the husband and leader. Take the necessary steps to make your relationship with your wife the most important one again and don’t forget it. Lead, gentlemen, lead!

Even though those were only a couple of quick examples, I know there are a few of you out there who need to step up your role as a husband. Those examples don’t apply to you? Then consider who you know and talk to at your gym, the grocery store, the local hangout or wherever. These “simple” places could produce difficult relationships that will harm your relationship and love with your wife. Man up and do what needs to be done for your marriage!

Now that I have your attention, here are five things every married man should do around single women:

1. Keep your ring on. There are very few exceptions for when that ring needs to be off, like when operating heavy machinery, swimming in shark-infested waters and the like. If you are about to enter a situation that makes you look at your ring and consider if you need it on or not, leave! Run! Get away from there! Seriously, get out of that situation; your vows, marriage, children and more depend on those important decisions. (Read Luke 16:10.)

2. Hang up pictures of your wife at work. A married man in this position would be wise to pick out a couple of great and fun photos of him and his wife and keep them displayed at his office or place of work. Pick a time that was fun for two reasons: It will remind you why you love her so much, and it will make for a great conversation tool when others, especially women, ask about it. Update the image as needed to keep the people around you knowing your relationship is continuing to grow. Get that picture up this week and extinguish those flames. (Read Psalm 119:37.)

3. Keep eye contact simple and short. Don’t read this the wrong way; I’m not saying to be rude. I’m saying to be careful where your eyes travel and how long they travel when you are in the presence of an attractive single woman. You know that once you engage in the first serious look, you have signed the dotted line for more eye trouble. (Read more about that “first look” here.) Keep it short, keep it decisive, and move on. Get back to that image posted at your desk. Go! (Read Matthew 5:28.)

4. Keep conversation general and professional. If you work around single women, there is no question that conversation will come up. It’s up to you on how you decide to speak with her. You can choose to keep it short and general, you can choose to keep it professional, or you can choose to keep it off of those and allow it go places it shouldn't. Be polite but very intentional in your conversations. If needed, again, always be ready to bring up something about your wife or family. Pull the pin, aim, and extinguish. Safety first. (Read Romans 6:13.)

5. Talk about your wife and family often. Did I mention anything about talking about your wife in conversation yet? I believe I did, but this last point brings the idea to a firm home. The single women you engage with each day, if you have to, should be no match to your wife and family. Your family should be your first priority wherever you are and with whomever you encounter each day. Yes, each and every day. Keep it short, keep it simple, and mention your beautiful wife. Now pat yourself on the back and keep it up. (Read Ephesians 5:25-33.)

Important note: No matter what you have done with your current relationships with single women, these steps can and should be started at anytime. Your wife’s feelings are and will always be more important than the woman you need to take these steps with. Get on it!

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How To Check The Registration Ward & Verify The Status Of Your PVC Online

As we count down to the 2015 elections a few days away, it is important that you arm yourself with the right tool to vote in your choice leaders - your Permanent Voter's Card(PVC).

If you have not collected your PVC and have probably forgotten the ward where you got registered, you can easily get these from the INEC website.

To do this, visit http://voters.inecnigeria.org/dashboard/index, fill in the details required and submit your request by clicking on the 'Check Status' button.

Remember, your vote is your power. Share this information with everyone you know and also read, How To Choose Political Leaders.

DON'T FORGET!!!

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CREATED TO CREATE By: Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Do you know that you were made? You didn’t just happen; you were created, formed, made to be, by God. You were designed by God not to live an unfulfilled and undignified life: you were created to amount to something; you were created to fulfill a purpose on the earth.
To create is to cause to exist, to bring something into being that has never been before; it also means to produce through artistic or imaginative effort. It can also connote using what is within you to obtain what has not been seen. Genesis 1:27 helps us to understand this. It says: So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. If God created man in His own image, it means that man was created with the ability to create (just as God could).
This week, I will be teaching on Creating Excitement At Home.
Creating an excitement at home is one major thing lacking in today’s families. Laughter is far from them. Smiling is a problem for them! They never see the need to express joy and nothing is worth celebrating. But I tell you, this year will be different for you. You shall be distinguished! Every dullness and sorrow in your family will be turned into joy in Jesus’ name.
Home and family life are exciting experiences; they are not necessary evils. God delights in them. So, they are meant to be the most exciting parts of your life, as a child of God. But know that excitement or happiness doesn’t fall on you just because you are a Christian. No! You programme yourself for it! You create it!
You were created to create! You can make room for excitement in your family, so that God can reside with you. My husband, in spite of his busy schedule, finds time to play with his children. He makes humorous statements to the delight of his children. Those who know him are quite aware that he is a jolly person to be with. He is always having a joke to defuse tension, anytime he sees sad looking faces.

I would like you to know that family success is possible, but it does not happen by chance. You must programme for it, if you desire it. Nothing works until you work it! That is why the scripture says: …Every house is builded by a man … (Hebrews 3:4). You cannot build a house by merely wishing it. The same way, you cannot have an exciting home except you work it out.
The law of creation forbids things happening by themselves; they must be made to happen. God’s Word says: …God created the heaven and the earth (Genesis 1:1). Thus saith the Lord, The heaven is my throne, and the earth is my footstool… (Isaiah 66:1).
The power to create excitement in your home can only be given when you are born again. You become born again by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer:

Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner, so I cannot help myself. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your blood. Deliver me from the power of sin and satan to serve the Living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You for making me your child. Now, I know I am born again.

Congratulations! Till I come your way again next week, call or write, and share your testimonies with me through:

• E-mail: counselling@faithoyedepo.org
• Tel.  No: 07026385437, 08141320204

Believe In Yourself

Believe in Yourself, There is no limit to what you can achieve

YES YOU CAN!

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Reaching Your Goals

One day a son came to his father for an advice: Dad, I can't do it, he said, - those practices only exhaust me, and the result doesn't change. It may be not destined for me to play football and my dream will never come true.

The father looked at his son with loving eyes and said:

You know son, every person in life has a dream, a goal, a wish. They are the ones who make us do what we are doing, because it’s what we should do. We have to fight for what we believe in, what we feel. In other case, you will simply break. Once, and for all. As thought you were never there. 
The easiest way is to quit everything and not go until the end, because the path is difficult and we are not used to inconveniences. We want everything to be easy and at once. But the wishes are fleeting! This is how our dream dies, and the goal becomes unreachable.

Then gradually, life becomes a routine without depth and meaning. Then one day, we try to forget and start everything from the beginning, we wait for a new day to make our life different. When new obstacles come in our way, we stop again. We become full of despair and anger for our own impotence… but, you only need to remember one thing: never give up, fight, battle.

It doesn't matter that you have lost one battle or even dozens of battles. Life goes on! Your biggest enemies are hiding in you – laziness, fear, doubt, indecision. Be a warrior of your dream, a knight of your goal and a soldier of your wishes.

THOUGHT TO PONDER:  

Never allow your biggest enemies such as laziness, fear, doubt, indecision to weigh you down in life.

How Much Does Faith Cost?

A little girl went to her bedroom and pulled a glass jelly jar from its hiding place in the closet. She poured the change out on the floor and counted it carefully. Three times, even. The total had to be exactly perfect.

Carefully placing the coins back in the jar and twisting on the cap, she slipped out the back door and made her way 6 blocks to a Drug Store.

She waited patiently for the pharmacist to give her some attention but he was too busy at that moment. Tess twisted her feet to make a scuffing noise to attract the man but it didn't.

She cleared her throat with the most disgusting sound she could muster, yet nothing happened. 

Finally she took the cap of her jar and banged it on the glass counter, 'that did it' she said. "And what do you want?" the pharmacist asked in an annoyed tone of voice."I'm talking to my brother from Chicago whom I haven't seen in ages," he said without waiting for a reply to his question.

"Well, I want to talk to you about my brother," Tess answered back in the same annoyed tone. "He's really, really sick... and I want to buy a faith."

''I beg your pardon?" said the pharmacist. His name is Andrew and he has something bad growing inside his head, and my Daddy says only faith can save him now. So how much does faith cost?". 

"We don't sell faith here, little girl. I'm sorry, I can't help you," the pharmacist said, softening a little. "Listen, I have the money to pay for it. If it isn't enough, I will get the rest. Just tell me how much it costs." The pharmacist's brother was a well dressed man. He stooped down and asked the little girl, "What kind of faith does your brother need?"

"I don't know," Tess replied with her eyes welling up. "I just know he's really sick and Mommy says he needs an operation. 

But my Daddy can't pay for it, so I want to use my money.

"How much do you have?" asked the man.

"One dollar and eleven cents," Tess answered barely audibly. "And it's all the money I have, but I can get some more if I need to".

"Well, what a coincidence," smiled the man. "A dollar and eleven cents--- the exact price of a faith for little brothers." He took her money in one hand and with the other hand he grasped her mitten and said "Take me to where you live. I want to see your brother and meet your parents. Let's see if I have the faith you need." 

The well dressed man was a surgeon, specialized in neuro-surgery. The operation was completed free of charge and it wasn't long Andrew was home again, and doing well. Mom and Dad were happily talking about the chain of events that had led them to this place. 
"That surgery," her Mom whispered. "was a real miracle from faith". I wonder how much it would have cost?".

Tess smiled, She knew exactly how much a faith cost, one dollar and eleven cents, as a little child. 

Points to consider: 
Without faith it is impossible to do anything, therefore, by faith, miracles occur. Faith is expensive; it might require you giving up one dollar and eleven cents like Tess or your Isaac like the very father of faith - Abraham. If you think Faith is expensive, try Fear!

14 What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can faith save him? 15 If a brother or sister is naked and destitute of daily food, 16 and one of you says to them, “Depart in peace, be warmed and filled,” but you do not give them the things which are needed for the body, what does it profit? 17 Thus also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead. (James 2:14-17)

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How To Have Loyality

When you truly bear the image of God, people will see His glory through your life. One of the essential values of

God's kingdom that must be found in you is LOYALTY. People should know they can depend on your faithfulness at all times.
Several leaders have asked me this question over the years, "How sir, can we raise loyal followers?" Here is my answer to them - there are three major steps to cultivating loyalty and raising loyal disciples. They are:

1. Show impeccable loyalty to Jesus and the Father. Once people see you are loyal to a higher power, they become loyal to you. Loyalty begets loyalty.
2. Be loyal to your superiors. Integrity is not that you are perfect but that you are a man of your word. Do what you promise, no matter the cost. Psalm 15:4.
3. Show loyalty to the people you lead. Jesus showed loyalty to his disciples by loving them to the end, John 13:1. Did you notice that they became so loyal that they gave their lives for His Kingdom?

Lord purge our hearts once again with the blood of the New Covenant. Uproot from our lives every seed of rebellion. Create in us a clean heart, purify us and make us steadfast. Like little children in your hands, Holy Spirit please guide us to live faithful lives.
May the Lord find you FAITHFUL to His divine mandate upon your life IN JESUS NAME!
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"Gartittude" By Pastor Yugo

• A person who cannot give thanks cannot give anything.
• "Thank You"; two words that have immense implications. There's no way to quantify how many broken relationships those two words would've mended, how many hearts they would've healed, and how many lives the lack of them have ended.
• If you have ever lost anything always remember that it is because of God you haven't lost everything.
• Many are Landlords in the CEMETERY, Many are tenants in the MORTUARY, Many are candidates of OBITUARY,
  But we are here still worshiping in His SANCTUARY
• He has kept us since JANUARY,
  His good news still fills our DIARY,
  And He's doing all these without taking a SALARY
• Let's be grateful. 
  

Laughter Is The Best Medicine

Many years ago, a man by name, Norman Cousins was diagnosed as “terminally ill”. He was given six months to live. His chance for recovery was 1 in 500.
He could see the worry, depression and anger in his life contributed to, and perhaps helped cause, his disease. He wondered, “If illness can be caused by negativity, can wellness be created by positivity?”
He decided to make an experiment of himself. Laughter was one of the most positive activities he knew. He rented all the

funny

movies he could find – Keaton, Chaplin, Fields, the Marx Brothers. (This was before VCRs, so he had to rent the actual films.) He read

funny

stories. He asked his friends to call him whenever they said, heard or did something

funny

. His pain was so great he could not sleep. Laughing for 10 solid minutes, he found, relieved the pain for several hours so he could sleep.

 
He fully recovered from his illness and lived another 20 happy, healthy and productive years. (His journey is detailed in his book, Anatomy of an Illness.) He credits visualization, the love of his family and friends, and laughter for his recovery.
Some people think laughter is a waste of time. It is a luxury, they say, a frivolity, something to indulge in only every so often.
Nothing could be further from the truth. Laughter is essential to our equilibrium, to our well-being, to our aliveness. If we’re not well, laughter helps us get well; if we are well, laughter helps us stay that way.
Since Cousins’ ground-breaking subjective work, scientific studies have shown that laughter has a curative effect on the body, the mind and the emotions.
So, if you like laughter, consider it sound medical advice to indulge in it as often as you can. If you don’t like laughter, then take your medicine – laugh anyway.
Use whatever makes you laugh – movies, sitcoms,  records, books, cartoons, jokes, friends.
Give yourself permission to laugh – long and loud and out loud – whenever anything strikes you as funny. The people around you may think you’re strange, but sooner or later they’ll join in even if they don’t know what you’re laughing about.
Some diseases may be contagious, but none is as contagious as the cure. . . laughter.

Adapted from the book,
“Chicken Soup for the Surviving Soul”

The Process Of Creativity By Pastor David Ogbueli

Do you want to know how to convert your dreams to reality? Do you have an idea you want to turn into a product? God has given us the ability to create like he does and there is a timeless process of conversion I will reveal to you today.
First, you must understand that God is the source of all inventions, innovations and ideas. Everything begins with God; Gen 1:1. Resource (product) is scarce but the source (God) is unlimited.

STEP 1. PRAYER (communion, anointing, meditation): The purpose of prayer is to find out the mind of God before you take action. You cannot find me in a prayer meeting without a paper and pen because I know that without taking notes of what God will tell me, I would just waste the anointing. Knowing what prayer does is the beginning of your solution. Prayer supplies power (the ability to do work). Some unbelievers at this level do meditations.
STEP 2. REVELATION (ideas, inspiration, vision): This is the time to visualize and give life to your ideas. Everything that functions needs energy to work. Once energy (life) leaves a person/product, it dies. The purpose of the inspiration and mental energy at this stage is to get the job done.
STEP 3. COMMUNICATION (confession, vision-casting): This is the point where faith is spoken. This is the stage where the visionary begins to surround himself with vision-runners/helpers.
STEP 4. PLANNING (goals, objectives, time-limits, action-points): After articulating your vision, you must set goals and place deadlines to them. A goal without a delivery-date is just a dream.

STEP 5. ACTION (execution): The problem with most believers is that when they get divine directives they wait for God to take action. Never delegate back to God what He has assigned us to do. Nothing is given free. You must always take action proportional to the revelation that God has given you, Deut 2:24.

Finally, after going through these processes, you will get the PRODUCT. There are two points where you see the product: during the level of revelation(intangible) and during the reality/product(tangible) realm. The abundant life which God has called us into is a life of creativity and responsibility. It takes things from ideas and translates it to product. Resource (product) is scarce but the source (God) is unlimited. This is the process to getting results.

PRAYER:

FATHER, expand my ability to convert. Give me grace for conversion. Grace to convert the revelations you are pouring into my spirit today. Give me ability to solve problems. I want your will to be done through my life. Enlarge my capacity to influence my world. Let me not die a narrow-minded person. I cannot compress or reduce you to my level. Expand me to your level, Lord. Give me the spirit of responsibility to implement the things you are saying this hour, in Jesus' name!

How To Choose Political Leaders By: Pastor David Ogbueli

During elections, many people ask me, "Who shall I vote?". My answer has always been, "Use the Biblical principles God has laid out and you will always find the best leader". Here are seven major time-tested and universal principles for choosing a political leader.
1. He shall be whom the Lord has chosen: Set someone that God has chosen. Come in prayers and ask him for direction.
2. He shall be one from among your brethren: As a Christian, you must put a fellow believer in office. Even if he is not from your tribe or region, he must be a true Christian. Never use your vote to enthrone an unbeliever.
3. He shall not multiply horses to himself: He should never accumulate weapons of war for himself but must be a person that builds national security.
4. He shall not cause the people to return to Egypt: He should not lead the people back to slavery, neo-colonization, idolatry, occultism, etc.
5. He shall not multiply wives: He must respect family values. Not a person that is promiscuous or immoral. Immorality corrodes mentality and blinds vision.

6. He shall not greatly multiply silver & gold for himself: He must not be economically corrupt. He must build the commonwealth of the people and not just his own personal wealth.
7. He must be ruled by higher values. He must have the fear of God, read the Bible daily to fear and obey the Lord.
Anytime people choose a leader based on these principles, they will always rejoice because the righteous is in authority. Share these truths and apply them.
GOD BLESS YOU!

The Three Levels Of Knowledge(3) By: Pastor David Ogbueli

3. SPIRITUAL KNOWLEDGE
This is the third and highest level. This is the level where people's lives are changed totally. This level occurs at the Throne Room, at the Mercy Seat, in the Presence of God. This is the form of knowledge that feels like eating in the spiritual realm not just learning.

Moses' Tabernacle had three levels of light:
Outer court: - the illumination here is the sunlight, this symbolizes the natural realm/senses.
Holy Place: the illumination here is from the seven lampstands, this symbolizes the illumination that comes from the spirit of man ignited by God's spirit.
Holy of Holies: the illumination here is the Shekinah glory, this symbolizes knowledge through intimacy with God. The only comparison of this kind of communion in our physical world is sex.

This is the experience; when you move into the Holy place, away from the distractions of the world you can be able to see the glory of God. This is the Shekinah glory of God. In this level, spiritual energy is infused into you and without the natural way of assimilating knowledge. This level fixes the truth into your spirit.

Any area of your life where you are deficient in, do a fast in that area. E.g. There is what is called a Jesus fast. Cut off all distractions and start searching for Jesus. You can go to the Old Testament and search for all occurrences of Him. As you do this, you will discover Christ in a new dimension. You can do a Holy Spirit fast, a wisdom fast, or whatever. What fasting does is to remove the tares for the seed to grow. It is like preparing a forest for a fresh planting season.

Do you want to know Jesus, then feast on Him. This is more than hearing a sermon or reading a book.
The key to the third level is COMMUNION. This is what we demonstrate when we come to the communion table. It is similar to what mosquitoes and witches do ― suck blood. But this time, we are sucking the life of the Father into our spirit. What happens is that this thing flows into your being like waves, radiation. When it enters you, your life changes.
This is the same thing that Paul meant in 2Corinthians 3:18 "But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord."

This was what Moses experienced when he was with the Principal not just the principles for 40 days. The Word is a person. Feasting on Him is how you produce men that know God (men that are carriers of God's presence) not men that know about God.
Daniel 11:32 "… but the people that do know their God shall be strong, and do exploits."

PRAYER

Holy Spirit, I want to know you. I want to be one with you. The scripture says that if I'm joined with the Lord, I shall be one Spirit with you. I want intercourse and union with you. I want to experience you feeling my being. Take me to that realm of fellowship, friendship, oneness, koinonia and communion with you. To know you is the greatest treasure of life. Open my eyes to know you, to know my savior and to know my father.
Open my eyes that I might see. Open the eyes of my understanding. Give me the illumination that comes from inside, that eye that can discover and create things. Give me that eye that can discern and understand . Give me that inner eye that can see beyond what is obvious and key into opportunities. Anoint me with the spirit of wisdom and revelation.

Father, break the bread of life. Let all of us experience communion by feeding from the substance of your being. Cause us to rise to the realm where we live by you and your life manifests in our whole being and world. I want more of you and none of me, in Jesus' name.

CHILDREN ARE AN HERITAGE (2) By Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Dear Reader,
Welcome once again to God’s guidance concerning family matters. Last week, I taught on Children Are Blessings! I said children are gifts from God and unique blends of their parents.
Today, I would like to talk briefly on Raising God-fearing children. God has given those children to you to raise in His fear, so that they will become an ensign to the world around them. No one can help raise these children in a better way than you (the parents).
The Church, the School and the Society cannot take your place as parents, in terms of child raising. Your children are meant for signs and wonders. Behold, I and the children whom the LORD hath given me are for signs and for wonders in Israel from the LORD of hosts, which dwelleth in mount Zion (Isaiah 8:18).

The greatest inheritance you can leave for your children, is proper upbringing in the fear of the Lord. The Christian upbringing you give them today, will remain with them for life and they can impart the same to their children’s children, thereby raising a generation of godly children.
When you create the fear of the Lord in their hearts, you would have secured a great and glorious future that cannot be dashed or tampered with. Your children must be raised on a solid foundation. If the foundation is faulty then there is no guarantee for the future. No wonder, the Bible says in Psalm 11:3 If the foundation be destroyed…

The foundation of your children shall not be faulty in Jesus’ name. Invest in the foundation of your children, so that you will have joy from them. I pray that all parents reading this article, today, will find joy over their children tomorrow in Jesus’ mighty name.
Man is a tripartite being. He is composed of three parts – spirit, soul and body (1 Thessalonians 5:23). This automatically means that man has spiritual, emotional and physiological needs which have to be met. Children are no less human. They too are spirit, soul and body. It follows, therefore, that they have needs in these three realms, which must be satisfied.
Now, let’s consider the three main aspects of children’s lives and see how you can instill the fear of God into them.
The Spiritual Aspect
Just like adults have spiritual needs, so also the children do. The Bible tells us in John 4:24 that God is a Spirit. God made man in His image; therefore, man is essentially a spirit being. It is with that spirit that contact is made with God. Hence, each of those children can have contact with God, that is, they can establish a relationship with God.

Don’t assume that your children are going to heaven, simply because they are born into a Christian home, or because they attend Sunday school. No! They must confess Jesus as their Lord and Saviour. Thus, it’s your responsibility as parents to lead them to do so.
After this foundation has been laid, then we can now begin to build on it. The scripture must be opened and shared with them. You have to create time to sit down and teach them the Word of God. This is of great importance, because it instills the fear of God into their hearts so that when they grow and get into the world, God’s fear that has been planted in them will preserve them in the way of the Lord (Proverb 22:6). Remember Joseph? His parents were not there, yet, he refused to sin against God (Genesis 39:9).
It is important to note that every single life has a purpose, including children. Jeremiah 1:5 says: Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations. Jeremiah was ordained a prophet from the womb. So by prayer, locate your children’s ordination and propel them along that part.
Also, teach your children on how to pray correctly, bearing in mind the different kinds of prayers. Introduce your children to their heavenly Father, encourage them to pray daily. Finally, on meeting their needs spiritually, introduce them to active, Christian service in the house of God. Ensure that you make time available to meet their spiritual needs.

The Emotional Aspect
Children are to be loved, cared for and accepted. As a parent, you must meet their needs emotionally. They must be emotionally satisfied, so that there will be no attraction from outside, that will be able to secure their attention.
The reason for child abuse and all manner of evil today in the society, is because most parents are no longer there to meet the emotional needs of these children. Ensure that you are approachable and easily accessible by your children.
Give them opportunities to ask you question about what is bothering them. Don’t be “too big” for them that they will be afraid and prefer to seek for solace elsewhere.
Be there when you ought to so that, they will not look out for outside influence. I tell people all the time, that before a child will begin to go on drugs, something has gone wrong back at home. When you meet their needs in this area, no devil will influence them from outside.
Also, good, open and effective communication is a vital tool in helping your children to develop emotional stability. A child, who is self-assured and has high self-esteem, will be immune to foreign influence. May the Lord grant you grace to perform.
The Physical Aspect
Cleanliness, they say, is next to godliness. As a parent, it is also your duty to make provision for your children’s physical needs. They should be neat and adequately clothed for various periods. Ensure that as you appear neat, your children also look neat both at home and everywhere they may be found. They ought to be true representatives of Christ.
1 Timothy 5:8 says: But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. Your children should be well fed that is; they should be given a balanced diet no matter how small. There is a need for you to supervise their feeding habits.
Also, in their academics, be there to help. Prayerfully help them in their choice of subjects, and ultimately in setting goals in their career. Although these goals may change, but at least they should have one. Discover their bent in life and stir them in that direction. Please, don’t force them into your mold because, God may have a totally different plan for them therefore, encourage them to have Bible-based dreams.
It is also important for you to teach them how to handle money, and how to be financially accountable. This way, they will not be a disgrace to you in future. Statistics shows that over 90 per cent of the children of wealthy people don’t end up wealthy. Why? They are not taught how to spend money judiciously, so they end up wasting it. Rescue your children now, by teaching them how to spend their money wisely.
In conclusion, these three aspects of lives of the children I have mentioned, come in that order of priority: the spiritual need, the emotional need and the physical need. Don’t put all your attention on the physical that is not right; order your priorities correctly. I pray that God will give you the grace to perform so that your children will become responsible adults tomorrow.
Without the help of God, the best of man is still not enough. To enjoy that help in raising your children, you must first accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. If you would want to receive Him right now, please pray this prayer of faith with me:
Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You for saving me. Now I know I am born again!
Congratulations!
You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, and conselling@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores:

CHILDREN ARE AN HERITAGE By Pastor Faith Oyedepo

This week, as we round off this teaching, I’ll like to quickly share with you on The Power Of Prayer in the process of child-training and Tips for effective child-training.
Prayer is a spiritual weapon that can be used to bring about discipline in the lives of your children. Prayer power makes child-training easy, because it moulds them spiritually. As a Christian parent, who desires disciplined children, you must spend time to pray with and for your children, daily.
Mother Wesley, the mother of John and Charles Wesley, was a woman of prayer. She spent time praying for her children. No wonder, her children were foremost among the people who changed and affected their world positively, with impacts that are still being felt today. You can also do the same. Your children need your prayers. Do not faint in praying for them, because prayer changes things.
If you put these two tools to work, disciplining your children will become the easiest thing to do. I’d like to say here that there is no way you can discipline your children, if you are not disciplined yourself. It is my prayer that God will grant you grace to take responsibilities toward your children. You will not fail in Jesus’ precious name.
Let’s briefly outline some various tips for effective child-training: Begin at birth by saying bedtime prayers with your children. You will be amazed how quickly they pick them up and begin to say prayers with you! Help them to know Jesus as early as possible.
Read to your children Bible stories from children’s Bible for their age group. Family time together and sharing the Bible can be a wonderful experience.
Be very patient with your children.
Always build confidence in your child by whatever you do.
Listen to them; don’t just hear what they are saying, give them your attention and direct eye contact when they speak to you. Your children will let you know what challenges they have, and what you may need to bring to the Lord in intercessory prayer for them. This is such an important way to show them how much you value them, and you will also teach them to pray for others.
Watch over your children diligently! Know where they are, who they associate with, what they are watching on T.V., the kind of music they are listening to. Get involved and stay involved. Train them with good Christian moral values.
Give your children responsibility early in life. Children love to “help” at a very early age. At first, they may not do things quite the way you would, but they grow up to be self-reliant and dependable.
Teach them to respect proper authority.

Keep control over the home! Your children must know who is in control.
Nothing delights a child more than praise from his parents. Let them know just how much you appreciate them, whenever they do wonderful things.
Spend time with your children. Get down to their level and see things from their perspective. Seek to have as much family time as you can; crack jokes and laugh with them because proper humor is good for the soul.
Study your children to know who they really are, what they love, etc. Bring out the good whenever possible and try to re-shape any tendency towards bad behavior. Every child is a masterpiece from God. Allow them to be individuals.
Keep your marriage together! Children need parents who love each other! If you grew up in a home where your parents did not get along, whether divorced or not, you have probably realized later in life the devastating results in your own personal life. However, you can overcome this.
Do not leave your children behind when going to Church or Christian gatherings, at whatever age or stage. The Church is also a good institution for learning. Do you need God’s grace in your life? Then surrender your life to Christ. This is by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are set for it, please say this prayer:
Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I believe You died and rose on the third day. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your Precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Now, I know I am a child of God.
Congratulations!
You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: Email: contact@faithoyedepo.org, counselling@faithoyedepo.org and Tel. No: 07026385437, 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores:

KEYS TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE (2) By: Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Today, we shall be discussing the Keys Of Talking And Listening, as another vital key of effective communication. Silence, we all know, is only permitted in the grave. The only proof of life, therefore, is communication in its various forms.
Communication is a two-way process that involves talking and listening. Couples need to spend time communicating with each other, because such time spent is never a waste, but an investment. It is not so much of how long, but how well. This helps in developing personal relationship with each other. Someone has said, “A good communicator is always a good listener.” That is, a good communicator is not one who talks all the time, but one who knows when to talk and when to listen (Ecclesiastes 3:1). Can you imagine how frustrating it will be for you to receive a phone call from a friend, who spends twenty minutes talking, never allowing you to say a word? It is quite frustrating! For communication to be effective, when one is talking, the other person should listen. God’s Word says: Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath (James 1:19). This simply means that you should listen more than you talk. Perhaps, this is the reason God gave man two ears, but only one mouth, I believe.
One person should not be the only one talking throughout. No matter your temperament, never monopolize a discussion. Give room to your spouse or other members of the family to express themselves, as well. If your partner is an introvert, and you are an extrovert, be patient enough to allow him time to talk and wait for him to finish before you respond. Know that good lovers are usually good listeners. Learn to listen!

 It is important for us to know that men generally are direct in communication, while most of the time women are not. Women talk to get relief, while men talk to pass across information. Women talk to express their feelings, because to them, this is a process of proffering solutions to their problems, but men think logically to solve problems. Most of the time, wives just need their husbands to listen to them and not necessarily to proffer solutions to their demands.
Women communicate their feelings by making general statements. For instance, a woman says, “We never go out” while she is expressing her desire for another date. The man responds sharply with statements like “We went out last week”. Understanding is the key, and in order to be able to fully grasp what your wife wants, you have to read from what she says and you must first listen to her.
There are various ways you can enhance effective communication in your marriage. They are, but not limited to:
Openness: There should be no hide-and-seek game between you and your spouse, because you are now one. No one keeps secrets from himself. So, feel free to discuss anything and everything about yourself, with your spouse. It is not possible for the toe to hurt without the brain knowing; they are both members of one body.
Similarly, God expects that when two become one in holy wedlock, nothing should be kept as secret between them. Both must be open to one another and walk in sincerity. When a man takes a woman as a wife, the Bible declares that in God’s eyes, they are one flesh (Mark 10:8).
The devil often leads people into thinking that if they open up completely, they may never be accepted for who they are or that when their spouses hear the whole truth about an issue, they won’t love them anymore. But this is a lie. God’s Word says: And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed (Genesis 2:25). If in the beginning, the man and his wife were naked but did not experience shame, then it follows that if you apply the same principle of openness to your marriage, shame will not be your portion!

Appreciation: For every little thing or gift you receive from your spouse, learn to appreciate it because this will provoke him or her to go the extra mile to do anything for you. Appreciate the fact that you are married to him or her.
Continuous Forgiveness: Keeping of grudges and offences will create distance between you and your spouse. This eventually degenerates to anger, which stirs up bitterness and hatred that blocks the free flow of effective communication. Never you go to bed at night with something against your spouse in your heart. If you do, you have given the devil room to penetrate your marriage through nightmares, for instance. Make sure whatever needs to be sorted out, is done same day. You shall not fail in Jesus’ name!
To fulfil marital responsibilities, as discussed here, you need to secure God’s grace by giving your life to Christ. If you are not born again and you want to do so today, please say this prayer:
Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins.  Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. Deliver me from sin and Satan, to serve the Living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Now I know I am born again!
Congratulations! Till I come your way again next week, call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: contact@faithoyedepo.org, counselling@faithoyedepo.org OR 07026385437, 08141320204
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores:

KEYS TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE By: Pastor Faith Oyedepo

What is Communication? Communication can be defined as the exchange of conversation, ideas and feelings between two or more people. Communication is meant to be two-sided and stimulating. In marriage, it is meant to be a medium of sharing thoughts, feelings, ideas, etc, between a man and his wife, thereby keeping your relationship going.
To be able to keep a free flow of communication with your spouse and other members of your household, you must first of all develop a good flow of communication with God, your Creator. The Word of God says: For every house is builded by some man; but he that built all things is God (Hebrews 3:4). This Scripture gave us a clear picture that the true Builder of a successful marriage is God. Therefore, you must be able to communicate effectively with the builder of all things, so you can have all it takes to build a free flow communication line between you and your spouse, and others around you.
It is very important for you to know that God is the ultimate Builder of families and destinies. That is the reason most couples lack effective communication in their marriage. It will do you good, when you allow the communication line between you and God to be open all the time. Learn to rub minds with God; as you do so, His great mind will rub off on your little mind and make it sharper in effective communication with others.

How Do I Communicate Effectively with God? The following are ways through which you can communicate effectively with God:
A life of Prayer: A life of prayer is one of the major ways of communicating with God. Prayer is simply the art of communing with God. Prayer involves you talking to God, and God talking to you. It is a two-way purposeful conversation with God. The Word of God says: Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God (Philippians 4:6). This clearly shows that through the medium of prayer, your request can be made known to God, and you can expect answers from Him.
For you to be able to communicate with God effectively in prayer, you need to first of all become His child. Salvation is the only key to effective communication with God otherwise, your prayer will be noise to God. Without a free flow of communication with God, every other communication will not be a smooth one. The Word of God says: Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers (Ephesians 4:29).
A life of Thanksgiving, Praise and Worship: If you are addicted to a life of thanksgiving, praise and worship to God, it will definitely reflect in your everyday life with your spouse and family members. The Word of God says: …Teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord (Colossians 3:16).
To be thankful is to be praiseful, to be praiseful is to be joyful, to be joyful is to be ‘God-full.’ God’s Word says: …O thou that inhabitest the praises of Israel (Psalm 22:3). Just as fish cannot survive outside water, God cannot survive outside praise. Accusations, murmuring and complaining are signs of ingratitude to God, and can lead to destruction (1 Corinthians 10:10).
Therefore, in all situations, remember that God is always right! He is always working in your favour and for your good. A grateful attitude is the secret!
As earlier mentioned, you need to surrender your life to Christ, in order to effectively communicate with God, which is the foundation for effective communication in marriage. If you are set for this new birth experience, you can say this prayer of faith:

Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins.  Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. Deliver me from sin and Satan, to serve the Living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Now I know I am born again!
Congratulations! Till I come your way again next week, call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: contact@faithoyedepo.org, counselling@faithoyedepo.org OR 07026385437, 08141320204
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores:

WHAT ABOUT DIVORCE? (3) By: Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Dear Reader,
Greetings in the precious Name of our Lord, Jesus Christ. You are specially welcome to God’s presence, in Jesus’ name.
We have been on this teaching for the past two weeks now. The first week, we saw that from the beginning, God’s intention was for husband and wife to live together for life. Last week, we also saw the place of forgiveness and that we are not perfect people; we can make mistakes.
This week, I will be showing you the steps to take to make things right. There’s a proverb that says,“Tall oaks from little acorns grow”. The problems in marriages that have grown so big and so tall, started as tiny seeds. To solve some of these problems, you must trace them to their roots, and find out how and where you missed it. When this is done, you must accept responsibility for your actions and reactions, and admit these to God in prayer. Don’t shift blame because if you do, you are trying to exonerate yourself and restoration cannot come. The first step to take is:
Begin at the beginning
Go back to your original vow, to remain married for the rest of your lives. “The way to renew a marriage doesn’t begin with a change of emotions,” “but with an act of will.” The restoration of joy and fulfillment is brought about by living by our promises.

Let Go of Past Hurts

As Philippians 3:13-14 says: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal… In this case, let your goal be a mutually satisfying union. Begin to appreciate your spouse for who he/she is (among other things, trustworthy and responsible). Before you know it, you will begin to see a new spouse.
Think Right

Think right about your spouse, even if he or she offends you. God’s Word says: For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts… (Mark 7:21). One thing my husband does, which I have learnt from him is to make excuses for the people who offend him. He says, “Maybe it’s the best he knows to do.” Learn to make allowances for other people’s mistakes. Even if the offence is deliberate, let God be the judge (Psalm 94:1).

Speak Right

You can guard your tongue from hurting your partner, by choosing your words carefully and speaking wisely (Proverbs 25:11). If you have offended your partner, saying “I am sorry” from the depth of your heart is not asking for too much. You must get into the habit of apologizing, owning up when you are wrong. One major way to speak right is to be quick to hear and slow to speak, slow to wrath.
Dare to Believe God For the Best in Your Relationship With Your Spouse
Paul reminds us in Ephesians 3:20-21 that God is able to do super-abundantly, far over and above all that we [dare] ask or think—infinitely beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes or dreams (Amplified). That promise is true for marriages—even when only one partner is willing to change. Instead of bemoaning a marriage mistake, you can relinquish your ideas of what makes a satisfying marriage, and ask God to give you a good heart towards your spouse.
There is good in your marriage, but it will take willful obedience to it. Any step you take in obedience to God’s Word, will always guarantee a reward. One sister shared this very amazing testimony, to show that obedience to God’s Word has rewards.

“I’ve been married for over 12 years, and what I’m enjoying now, I had never enjoyed such since I got married. I thank God for our mother in the Lord, who during the Family Renewal seminar in March 1995 preached to us. Ever since, the Lord has turned around the tide, just through my obedience to the Word.
She preached that day and laid emphasis on wives being submissive to their husbands in everything, just like the Church submits to Christ. She also said we were to be submissive in everything. I didn’t realise that I wasn’t totally submissive to him. I wept so much in church that day, and went to the Lord, saying, ‘Lord, from this day, I know that obedience is the key.’ Since that day, I’ve been enjoying what all my fasting, binding and all couldn’t deliver to me. I had done so many things to get my husband to love me – fasted, bound, loose – but I thank God that now it’s like I’m wedded anew. 
Just yesterday morning, to confirm God’s faithfulness in my home, my husband gave me a cheque of one hundred thousand naira, which I cashed this morning. I now enjoy peace, love and harmony.” – Adebayo, L.
It’s your turn for a testimony! Be blessed!

The starting point to enjoying the good in your marriage is to invite Jesus into your home. This invitation begins with a simple prayer said with faith in your heart. If you would like to do that, please pray this prayer:

Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Now I know I am born again!
Congratulations!

You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, and conselling@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores:

WHAT ABOUT DIVORCE? By: Pastor Faith Oyedepo

Dear Reader,
I count it a great privilege to bring God’s Word your way, which will bring answers to your questions in Jesus’ name. This month, the question is What About Divorce? Does God approve of it?
Why is it that two people who were so in love, who could barely do without each other, suddenly grow cold and grow apart? With the same mouth with which they exchanged endearments, they fire abuses at one another. What is it that is pressurizing you to divorce? Is it childlessness between you as a couple?

No matter how modern man excuses divorce, it is not of God. The union of a man and woman in holy wedlock is sacred and for a lifetime. The Pharisees asked Jesus: Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? And he answered…Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so…what therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder (Matthew 19:4,8 & 6).

From the beginning, God’s intention was not to see the man and his wife divorced (Matthew 19:4,6,8).He put into both the ability to accommodate and support each other, as well as the ability to compliment. This is why trying to run marriage without God has brought uncontrollable conflicts within homes. When you acknowledge God, giving His Word pre-eminence and allowing it to guide you, the mention of the word ‘divorce’ will be strange in your ears. You may scoff and say, “She doesn’t know how bad things are between us.” But I say,” Let God be true and all men [their sayings or the circumstances in which they are in] be liars.” (Romans 3:4). Your situation will respond to the Word of God, if you will apply your heart to it.
Jesus told a parable someday about a householder, who sowed good seeds in his field, but awoke to find tares growing alongside. When asked how this was possible, considering that he had only sown good seeds, the householder replied: An enemy hath done this… (Matthew 13:28).
A sweet marriage is like the good seed sown by the householder. But when couples are asleep in the spirit, the enemy creeps in and sows seeds of discord, disunity, hatred and bitterness. The enemy magnifies every small issue, and the man and woman focus on those little foxes until the problem is out of control. If you are not yet divorced, but are at the verge of it, stop and do a re-think just as you can see in this testimony:
“I have been married for the past 10 years, and have not enjoyed peace in the home ever since. For me, marriage wasn’t a good institution. Things were just upside down. I had a child in 1993 that died. Apart from that, I had series of miscarriages. I had a car, but it is no more. It was as if everything came to a halt.
My husband started coming to Living Faith Church. He didn’t ask me to come with him, because I was already attending another Pentecostal church, though there was no peace in my home. The situation grew worse and the tension became so high that I asked the Lord what I would do. I told my husband, ‘If this is what marriage is all about, let us call it quits.’ He replied, ‘The door is wide open, you can go.’ It was then I sat down and did a rethink.
I came to Living Faith Church and heard Bishop David Oyedepo say, ‘I have been married for many years now and there has not been any concern or problem in my home.’ I said to myself, ‘Is this on this earth or in another planet?’ But somehow, God has done it for me! Now I know I had been the problem, not my husband. My husband is a “perfect” gentleman. The Bishop’s wife sometimes jokingly says that if there was such thing as another life, she would still choose to marry her husband. I too can joyfully say the same thing today.”- Neburabo, R.

No matter where you have missed it in your marriage, refuse to resort to divorce or separation. It is a thief of honour in marriage and family life. God’s Word says: And unto the married I command, yet not I but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband (I Corinthians 7:10).
God can give you the ability to accommodate and support your spouse, as well as the ability to compliment. This ability can only be given by God. This is done by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer:

Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Savious. Now I know I am born again!
Congratulations!

You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, and conselling@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: